Entertainment
Reel-ality TV Talk
By Marquesa LaDawn
NNPA Columnist
On the Real Housewives of New York (RHONY), arriving in Turks and Caicos brings out the crazy. Before I go there, I must compliment the ladies for looking so hot at their age in a bikini! Some other things, not so much. For starters, Ramona, really? How old are you? Running into the house and demanding the best room? Are you the host? It’s funny how you drove yourself and the other ladies crazy and did not get the best room.
I think Bethenny summed you up best in three words: “Ramona, The Apologizer.” You have a pattern: screw up, offend and then apologize. Go on put on the cape! I have to say I’m jealous – in a good way. The digs, water, chef, butler, everything is amazing.
Ok, enough of that. Would you believe Bethenny is sharing a room with Heather? It just sort of happened. Let’s see how that develops next week.
The biggest shocker is Sonya is so deep in denial about well, everything; it’s driving the other housewives crazy. So, they let her have it this week, especially Bethenny. I think it’s so interesting how we need others to shake us up at times. I do feel a little sorry for Sonya, I think she’s being hugely impacted by the scars of her past. She can’t let them go and she self-medicates with alcohol to deal. She is such a lovely women with a heart of gold, but needs a bit of push to understand and shift her reality.
Real Housewives of the OC (RHOOC) take baths in their scars. Let’s start with Tamara Barnes (Judge). She is a mess, but it was refreshing to see her admit that she needs to make some changes and become a better version of herself. That thought was gone by the next week and now she’s back with her lack of filters. I must give a high five to head OC Housewife Vicki, for extending a “let’s reconnect” olive branch to Tamara. It may be an episode or two before the branch is broken.
The deepest scars, are clearly from Shannon. I don’t know what to make of her, I admire her desire to keep her marriage together, but I have to say that at times, it comes off as desperate. It’s almost like she’s proclaiming feeling insecure, dealing with affairs, and the like to stay married. I wish her the best. I also hope she does what’s in the best interest of her sanity, which could mean saying goodbye. All of this personal pressure is causing her to be a bit over emotional in other situations. The new housewife tries to connect with her and Shannon overreacts and storms out. This is what gets me, based on next week’s preview, her behavior gets her uninvited to a party and she’s surprised! Really!
I must mention Heather, the princess of OC, the one who lives in the palace and is building another. She launched her first product, a champagne this week, happy to see her making her own coin. I mean it’s got to be boring spending all that money on 30 bathrooms and countless bedrooms. I’m not hating, just admiring.
The Real Housewives of New Jersey (RHONJ) will be back soon. Did you hear, it’s all about Joe and the kids and how they deal with Teresa not being around. I’m excited about this!
But I’m also a bit bummed by Claudia Jordan getting dismissed from the Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA). My goodness, she was the only one to stand up to Queen Nene with class. I mean Kenya was pretty good as well, but, Claudia handled Nene like a pro. If I had to guess why they let her go, she had no life. She’s such a pretty lady but nothing was going on. Although I do not agree with Nene about all women being in relationships or dating on the show, I do think you need to have something popping.
Speaking of something popping, The Braxtons never disappoint. The entertainment value is always high. But, like every one else, they got scars too and a lot of them. Trina, my goodness, she struggles with being alone. She sacrificed so much happiness to be married and now she’s paying for it via a dirty divorce. I love that short hairdo, Trina!
Tamar, is struggling with feeling invisible to her sisters, she feels left out and refuses to change or say I’m sorry. I can tell they are fed up with her antics and they’ve chosen to block her out nicely. I’m more worried about Traci who seems under the influence. More on that next week. Stay tuned.
I cannot end without talking about my Married to Medicine ladies. Quad, deals with her scars by turning the tables and getting vengeance. Her target, Lisa Nichol Cloud, the volcano will erupt soon.
Marquesa LaDawn is a professional businesswoman who escapes the pressures of living in New York City by retreating into the real world of reality TV. Follow me on twitter @realityshowgirl and subscribe to her podcast at www.RealitytvGirl.com.
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Activism
Oakland Post: Week of December 24 – 30, 2025
The printed Weekly Edition of the Oakland Post: Week of – December 24 – 30, 2025
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Alameda County
Bling It On: Holiday Lights Brighten Dark Nights All Around the Bay
On the block where I grew up in the 1960s, it was an unwritten agreement among the owners of those row homes to put up holiday lights: around the front window and door, along the porch banister, etc. Some put the Christmas tree in the window, and you could see it through the open slats of the blinds.
By Wanda Ravernell
I have always liked Christmas lights.
From my desk at my front window, I feel a quiet joy when the lights on the house across the street come on just as night falls.
On the block where I grew up in the 1960s, it was an unwritten agreement among the owners of those row homes to put up holiday lights: around the front window and door, along the porch banister, etc. Some put the Christmas tree in the window, and you could see it through the open slats of the blinds.
My father, the renegade of the block, made no effort with lights, so my mother hung a wreath with two bells in the window. Just enough to let you know someone was at home.
Two doors down was a different story. Mr. King, the overachiever of the block, went all out for Christmas: The tree in the window, the lights along the roof and a Santa on his sleigh on the porch roof.
There are a few ‘Mr. Kings’ in my neighborhood.
In particular is the gentleman down the street. For Halloween, they erected a 10-foot skeleton in the yard, placed ‘shrunken heads’ on fence poles, pumpkins on steps and swooping bat wings from the porch roof. They have not held back for Christmas.
The skeleton stayed up this year, this time swathed in lights, as is every other inch of the house front. It is a light show that rivals the one in the old Wanamaker’s department store in Philadelphia.
I would hate to see their light bill…
As the shortest day of the year approaches, make Mr. King’s spirit happy and get out and see the lights in your own neighborhood, shopping plazas and merchant areas.
Here are some places recommended by 510 Families and Johnny FunCheap.
Oakland
Oakland’s Temple Hill Holiday Lights and Gardens is the place to go for a drive-by or a leisurely stroll for a religious holiday experience. Wear a jacket, because it’s chilly outside the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, at 4220 Lincoln Ave., particularly after dark. The gardens are open all day from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. with the lights on from dusk until closing.
Alameda
Just across the High Street Bridge from Oakland, you’ll find Christmas Tree Lane in Alameda.
On Thompson Avenue between High Street and Fernside drive, displays range from classic trees and blow-ups to a comedic response to the film “The Nightmare Before Christmas.” Lights turn on at dusk and can be seen through the first week in January.
Berkeley
The Fourth Street business district from University Avenue to Virginia Street in Berkeley comes alive with lights beginning at 5 p.m. through Jan. 1, 2026.
There’s also a display at one house at 928 Arlington St., and, for children, the Tilden Park Carousel Winter Wonderland runs through Jan. 4, 2026. Closed Christmas Day. For more information and tickets, call (510) 559-1004.
Richmond
The Sundar Shadi Holiday Display, featuring a recreation of the town of Bethlehem with life-size figures, is open through Dec. 26 at 7501 Moeser Lane in El Cerrito.
Marin County
In Marin, the go-to spot for ‘oohs and ahhs’ is the Holiday Light Spectacular from 4-9 p.m. through Jan. 4, 2026, at Marin Center Fairgrounds at 10 Ave of the Flags in San Rafael through Jan. 4. Displays dazzle, with lighted walkways and activities almost daily. For more info, go to: www.marincounty.gov/departments/cultural-services/department-sponsored-events/holiday-light-spectacular
The arches at Marin County Civic Center at 3501 Civic Center Dr. will also be illuminated nightly.
San Francisco
Look for light installations in Golden Gate Park, chocolate and cheer at Ghirardelli Square, and downtown, the ice rink in Union Square and the holiday tree in Civic Center Plaza are enchanting spots day and night. For neighborhoods, you can’t beat the streets in Noe Valley, Pacific Heights, and Bernal Heights. For glee and over-the-top glitz there’s the Castro, particularly at 68 Castro Street.
Livermore
The winner of the 2024 Great Light Flight award, Deacon Dave has set up his display with a group of creative volunteers at 352 Hillcrest Avenue since 1982. See it through Jan. 1, 2026. For more info, go to https://www.casadelpomba.com
Fremont
Crippsmas Place is a community of over 90 decorated homes with candy canes passed out nightly through Dec. 31. A tradition since 1967, the event features visits by Mr. and Mrs. Claus on Dec. 18 and Dec. 23 and entertainment by the Tri-M Honor Society at 6 p.m. on Dec. 22. Chrippsmas Place is located on: Cripps Place, Asquith Place, Nicolet Court, Wellington Place, Perkins Street, and the stretch of Nicolet Avenue between Gibraltar Drive and Perkins Street.
Activism
Desmond Gumbs — Visionary Founder, Mentor, and Builder of Opportunity
Gumbs’ coaching and leadership journey spans from Bishop O’Dowd High School, Oakland High School, Stellar Prep High School. Over the decades, hundreds of his students have gone on to college, earning academic and athletic scholarships and developing life skills that extend well beyond sports.
Special to the Post
For more than 25 years, Desmond Gumbs has been a cornerstone of Bay Area education and athletics — not simply as a coach, but as a mentor, founder, and architect of opportunity. While recent media narratives have focused narrowly on challenges, they fail to capture the far more important truth: Gumbs’ life’s work has been dedicated to building pathways to college, character, and long-term success for hundreds of young people.
A Career Defined by Impact
Gumbs’ coaching and leadership journey spans from Bishop O’Dowd High School, Oakland High School, Stellar Prep High School. Over the decades, hundreds of his students have gone on to college, earning academic and athletic scholarships and developing life skills that extend well beyond sports.
One of his most enduring contributions is his role as founder of Stellar Prep High School, a non-traditional, mission-driven institution created to serve students who needed additional structure, belief, and opportunity. Through Stellar Prep numerous students have advanced to college — many with scholarships — demonstrating Gumbs’ deep commitment to education as the foundation for athletic and personal success.

NCAA football history was made this year when Head Coach from
Mississippi Valley State, Terrell Buckley and Head Coach Desmond
Gumbs both had starting kickers that were women. This picture was
taken after the game.
A Personal Testament to the Mission: Addison Gumbs
Perhaps no example better reflects Desmond Gumbs’ philosophy than the journey of his son, Addison Gumbs. Addison became an Army All-American, one of the highest honors in high school football — and notably, the last Army All-Americans produced by the Bay Area, alongside Najee Harris.
Both young men went on to compete at the highest levels of college football — Addison Gumbs at the University of Oklahoma, and Najee Harris at the University of Alabama — representing the Bay Area on a national level.
Building Lincoln University Athletics From the Ground Up
In 2021, Gumbs accepted one of the most difficult challenges in college athletics: launching an entire athletics department at Lincoln University in Oakland from scratch. With no established infrastructure, limited facilities, and eventually the loss of key financial aid resources, he nonetheless built opportunities where none existed.
Under his leadership, Lincoln University introduced:
- Football
- Men’s and Women’s Basketball
- Men’s and Women’s Soccer
Operating as an independent program with no capital and no conference safety net, Gumbs was forced to innovate — finding ways to sustain teams, schedule competition, and keep student-athletes enrolled and progressing toward degrees. The work was never about comfort; it was about access.
Voices That Reflect His Impact
Desmond Gumbs’ philosophy has been consistently reflected in his own published words:
- “if you have an idea, you’re 75% there the remaining 25% is actually doing it.”
- “This generation doesn’t respect the title — they respect the person.”
- “Greatness is a habit, not a moment.”
Former players and community members have echoed similar sentiments in public commentary, crediting Gumbs with teaching them leadership, accountability, confidence, and belief in themselves — lessons that outlast any single season.
Context Matters More Than Headlines
Recent articles critical of Lincoln University athletics focus on logistical and financial hardships while ignoring the reality of building a new program with limited resources in one of the most expensive regions in the country. Such narratives are ultimately harmful and incomplete, failing to recognize the courage it takes to create opportunity instead of walking away when conditions are difficult.
The real story is not about early struggles — it is about vision, resilience, and service.
A Legacy That Endures
From founding Stellar PREP High School, to sending hundreds of students to college, to producing elite athletes like Addison Gumbs, to launching Lincoln University athletics, Desmond Gumbs’ legacy is one of belief in young people and relentless commitment to opportunity.
His work cannot be reduced to headlines or records. It lives on in degrees earned, scholarships secured, leaders developed, and futures changed — across the Bay Area and beyond.
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