Entertainment
Reel-ality TV Talk
By Marquesa LaDawn
NNPA Columnist
The crazy news never quits coming about Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA). Claudia was let go last month, Phaedra’s return is questionable and now Nene – the only original housewife left – has left the building.
Nene bid goodbye and says she’s ready for us to see her happy and doing new things. I think there’s more to it than that. During her last two seasons, the other cast members stood up to her and refused to let her win the war of words. Also, when she lost her BFF, Cynthia, she lost her support. Although we will miss her, in a way, she had already checked out.
I just hope she realizes that moving to another Bravo reality show still means facing her demons or moving away means showing some serious skills. I’m hearing the new RHOA cast will include one of my childhood favs – Kim Fields. I have mixed thoughts about that, although she played the feisty character, Regine, on her last long running TV project, “Living Single.” I’m not sure she can be interesting in real life. You see a Real Housewife has to be an interesting combination of boldness, uniqueness, vulnerability, shock value and a little bit of crazy rolled into one. Professional actors tend to come on the show thinking they can act their way through it, only to find themselves in unbelievable situations. We’ll see what happens with Kim.
There’s another show that I’ve been eyeing that has some of the high drama of RHOA. It’s also in Atlanta and called “Cutting it up in Atlanta.” It’s about salon owners and their personal dynamics with each other. I just heard one of the cast mates, was considered for RHOA but they passed on her and she’s now making waves on CIUA. On a scale of 1-10, I give it a 4 right now. It’s really heavy in the drama department, which makes for good TV for a short time before we are over it. Its like the ladies just arrived pissed off and ready to fight.
The Braxtons is catching fire. Granted, they had an advantage with a celebrity star, but if you’ve watched reality long enough, you know that all celebrities do not make great reality TV! Back to my girls, they are unpredictable as always. It’s interesting to see Toni Braxton on camera a lot this season. I’m thinking, when the reality show first started five years ago, Toni was in a bad place. She seems free after finally accepting the end of her marriage and not fearing becoming a has-been in the industry.
Now on to the good stuff…my girl Tracy is losing it. It’s so interesting that she will not tell her sisters what’s really wrong. For so long, she’s felt like a background sister, the least attractive and at times invisible. Starting last season she rebuilt her marriage and her career and now has a voice. She looks amazing! Yet, her sisters are hardly ever around to support her and that hurt. Add to the mix her 19 year old son getting married. Tracy, please say something! I think you will realize that your sisters will show up of you if you ask. So, ask!
On the Real Housewives of New York (RHONY), after arriving in Turks and Caicos and settling in last week into one heck of an island, the fireworks began. Ramona and Bethenny bonded like never before, over the pain of divorce. I’ve never seen Ramona so “real,” it was refreshing. Dorinda had a pep talk with Sonya about not standing up for herself and within minutes she became Hurricane Sonya.
Sonya confronted Ramona and Bethenny about being so mean. She yelled and screamed and told them to go somewhere. She then decided to just chill alone and not hang with them. Whoa! Now that Sonya is off the radar, they turn on one another. We see an argument start between Dorinda and Heather that will continue next week. Also, Bethenny decides to cook one of her amazing meals and mid way, some of the ladies decide to leave the house and go out to eat This continues next week… ooh it’s really good
Things also got interesting finally, for the Real Housewives of the OC (RHOOC), after a disagreement between Shannon and the newest housewife, Meghan. First of all, Shannon was rude twice toward newbie Meghan for no reason. But surprised when Meghan reacted by not inviting her to her party. Really? Shannon, you can’t be that delusional.
Marquesa LaDawn is a professional businesswoman who escapes the pressures of living in New York City by retreating into the real world of reality TV. Follow her on twitter @realityshowgirl and subscribe to her podcast at www.RealitytvGirl.com.
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Activism
Oakland Post: Week of December 24 – 30, 2025
The printed Weekly Edition of the Oakland Post: Week of – December 24 – 30, 2025
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Alameda County
Bling It On: Holiday Lights Brighten Dark Nights All Around the Bay
On the block where I grew up in the 1960s, it was an unwritten agreement among the owners of those row homes to put up holiday lights: around the front window and door, along the porch banister, etc. Some put the Christmas tree in the window, and you could see it through the open slats of the blinds.
By Wanda Ravernell
I have always liked Christmas lights.
From my desk at my front window, I feel a quiet joy when the lights on the house across the street come on just as night falls.
On the block where I grew up in the 1960s, it was an unwritten agreement among the owners of those row homes to put up holiday lights: around the front window and door, along the porch banister, etc. Some put the Christmas tree in the window, and you could see it through the open slats of the blinds.
My father, the renegade of the block, made no effort with lights, so my mother hung a wreath with two bells in the window. Just enough to let you know someone was at home.
Two doors down was a different story. Mr. King, the overachiever of the block, went all out for Christmas: The tree in the window, the lights along the roof and a Santa on his sleigh on the porch roof.
There are a few ‘Mr. Kings’ in my neighborhood.
In particular is the gentleman down the street. For Halloween, they erected a 10-foot skeleton in the yard, placed ‘shrunken heads’ on fence poles, pumpkins on steps and swooping bat wings from the porch roof. They have not held back for Christmas.
The skeleton stayed up this year, this time swathed in lights, as is every other inch of the house front. It is a light show that rivals the one in the old Wanamaker’s department store in Philadelphia.
I would hate to see their light bill…
As the shortest day of the year approaches, make Mr. King’s spirit happy and get out and see the lights in your own neighborhood, shopping plazas and merchant areas.
Here are some places recommended by 510 Families and Johnny FunCheap.
Oakland
Oakland’s Temple Hill Holiday Lights and Gardens is the place to go for a drive-by or a leisurely stroll for a religious holiday experience. Wear a jacket, because it’s chilly outside the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, at 4220 Lincoln Ave., particularly after dark. The gardens are open all day from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. with the lights on from dusk until closing.
Alameda
Just across the High Street Bridge from Oakland, you’ll find Christmas Tree Lane in Alameda.
On Thompson Avenue between High Street and Fernside drive, displays range from classic trees and blow-ups to a comedic response to the film “The Nightmare Before Christmas.” Lights turn on at dusk and can be seen through the first week in January.
Berkeley
The Fourth Street business district from University Avenue to Virginia Street in Berkeley comes alive with lights beginning at 5 p.m. through Jan. 1, 2026.
There’s also a display at one house at 928 Arlington St., and, for children, the Tilden Park Carousel Winter Wonderland runs through Jan. 4, 2026. Closed Christmas Day. For more information and tickets, call (510) 559-1004.
Richmond
The Sundar Shadi Holiday Display, featuring a recreation of the town of Bethlehem with life-size figures, is open through Dec. 26 at 7501 Moeser Lane in El Cerrito.
Marin County
In Marin, the go-to spot for ‘oohs and ahhs’ is the Holiday Light Spectacular from 4-9 p.m. through Jan. 4, 2026, at Marin Center Fairgrounds at 10 Ave of the Flags in San Rafael through Jan. 4. Displays dazzle, with lighted walkways and activities almost daily. For more info, go to: www.marincounty.gov/departments/cultural-services/department-sponsored-events/holiday-light-spectacular
The arches at Marin County Civic Center at 3501 Civic Center Dr. will also be illuminated nightly.
San Francisco
Look for light installations in Golden Gate Park, chocolate and cheer at Ghirardelli Square, and downtown, the ice rink in Union Square and the holiday tree in Civic Center Plaza are enchanting spots day and night. For neighborhoods, you can’t beat the streets in Noe Valley, Pacific Heights, and Bernal Heights. For glee and over-the-top glitz there’s the Castro, particularly at 68 Castro Street.
Livermore
The winner of the 2024 Great Light Flight award, Deacon Dave has set up his display with a group of creative volunteers at 352 Hillcrest Avenue since 1982. See it through Jan. 1, 2026. For more info, go to https://www.casadelpomba.com
Fremont
Crippsmas Place is a community of over 90 decorated homes with candy canes passed out nightly through Dec. 31. A tradition since 1967, the event features visits by Mr. and Mrs. Claus on Dec. 18 and Dec. 23 and entertainment by the Tri-M Honor Society at 6 p.m. on Dec. 22. Chrippsmas Place is located on: Cripps Place, Asquith Place, Nicolet Court, Wellington Place, Perkins Street, and the stretch of Nicolet Avenue between Gibraltar Drive and Perkins Street.
Activism
Desmond Gumbs — Visionary Founder, Mentor, and Builder of Opportunity
Gumbs’ coaching and leadership journey spans from Bishop O’Dowd High School, Oakland High School, Stellar Prep High School. Over the decades, hundreds of his students have gone on to college, earning academic and athletic scholarships and developing life skills that extend well beyond sports.
Special to the Post
For more than 25 years, Desmond Gumbs has been a cornerstone of Bay Area education and athletics — not simply as a coach, but as a mentor, founder, and architect of opportunity. While recent media narratives have focused narrowly on challenges, they fail to capture the far more important truth: Gumbs’ life’s work has been dedicated to building pathways to college, character, and long-term success for hundreds of young people.
A Career Defined by Impact
Gumbs’ coaching and leadership journey spans from Bishop O’Dowd High School, Oakland High School, Stellar Prep High School. Over the decades, hundreds of his students have gone on to college, earning academic and athletic scholarships and developing life skills that extend well beyond sports.
One of his most enduring contributions is his role as founder of Stellar Prep High School, a non-traditional, mission-driven institution created to serve students who needed additional structure, belief, and opportunity. Through Stellar Prep numerous students have advanced to college — many with scholarships — demonstrating Gumbs’ deep commitment to education as the foundation for athletic and personal success.

NCAA football history was made this year when Head Coach from
Mississippi Valley State, Terrell Buckley and Head Coach Desmond
Gumbs both had starting kickers that were women. This picture was
taken after the game.
A Personal Testament to the Mission: Addison Gumbs
Perhaps no example better reflects Desmond Gumbs’ philosophy than the journey of his son, Addison Gumbs. Addison became an Army All-American, one of the highest honors in high school football — and notably, the last Army All-Americans produced by the Bay Area, alongside Najee Harris.
Both young men went on to compete at the highest levels of college football — Addison Gumbs at the University of Oklahoma, and Najee Harris at the University of Alabama — representing the Bay Area on a national level.
Building Lincoln University Athletics From the Ground Up
In 2021, Gumbs accepted one of the most difficult challenges in college athletics: launching an entire athletics department at Lincoln University in Oakland from scratch. With no established infrastructure, limited facilities, and eventually the loss of key financial aid resources, he nonetheless built opportunities where none existed.
Under his leadership, Lincoln University introduced:
- Football
- Men’s and Women’s Basketball
- Men’s and Women’s Soccer
Operating as an independent program with no capital and no conference safety net, Gumbs was forced to innovate — finding ways to sustain teams, schedule competition, and keep student-athletes enrolled and progressing toward degrees. The work was never about comfort; it was about access.
Voices That Reflect His Impact
Desmond Gumbs’ philosophy has been consistently reflected in his own published words:
- “if you have an idea, you’re 75% there the remaining 25% is actually doing it.”
- “This generation doesn’t respect the title — they respect the person.”
- “Greatness is a habit, not a moment.”
Former players and community members have echoed similar sentiments in public commentary, crediting Gumbs with teaching them leadership, accountability, confidence, and belief in themselves — lessons that outlast any single season.
Context Matters More Than Headlines
Recent articles critical of Lincoln University athletics focus on logistical and financial hardships while ignoring the reality of building a new program with limited resources in one of the most expensive regions in the country. Such narratives are ultimately harmful and incomplete, failing to recognize the courage it takes to create opportunity instead of walking away when conditions are difficult.
The real story is not about early struggles — it is about vision, resilience, and service.
A Legacy That Endures
From founding Stellar PREP High School, to sending hundreds of students to college, to producing elite athletes like Addison Gumbs, to launching Lincoln University athletics, Desmond Gumbs’ legacy is one of belief in young people and relentless commitment to opportunity.
His work cannot be reduced to headlines or records. It lives on in degrees earned, scholarships secured, leaders developed, and futures changed — across the Bay Area and beyond.
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